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Months later, I learned to walk again. A month after that, I met my girlfriend. On our first date, they observed my limp and wordlessly slowed their pace. We had sex that night, and as I would each time in the first year of our relationship, I cried in spurts both during and after sex.
As other friends dropped away after I came out and eventually became disabled, a legion of lesbian and queer women rallied around me at my weakest, adjusting their steps to walk alongside me. In ongoing recovery, I cultivate a strong sense of entitlement to finding pleasure in my body through good sex, which, for me, now requires creativity; wildness; and subverting and enjoying the seedy, marginalized attitudes toward sex that both my lesbianism and chronic pain taught me.
Pain is my jailbreak from convention—the gateway to the queerest, hottest, and most intense sex I can have. When I compare my life before and after my accident, I appreciate the connected ways chronic pain deepens and expands the sex I share with others. During sex, my head used to spin from performance anxiety: How does this feel for them? Am I doing this right? Pleasure came from the relief that sex was over, or that my partner was satisfied, not from the act itself. Because of chronic pain, I now feel everything—physically, emotionally, and otherwise—through the core of my body.
Chronic pain quiets my mind, offering me wider physical and sensual opportunities. These opportunities look like bottoming. Like being a pillow princess. Like bratty demands and, occasionally, absolute submission to my partners. Before, I thought bottoming would make me too vulnerable, that making requests for certain acts was selfish, and that my kinks were embarrassing.
At times, it feels like the absolute last thing these designers considered is whether or not the tech implemented actually improves or hinders your sex life. Or, in some cases, whether their product is compatible with human beings that have Bluetooth signal-blocking vaginas and assholes. I found myself unable to test most of them because, often, only male toys are optimized for VR sex experiences. Unsurprisingly, there were far fewer videos optimized for it compared to male toys.
Incredulously, I also noticed that the Fuse was vibrating and responding in tandem with the male performer getting his genitalia stimulated rather than the female. What the current state of sex tech does is peddle a ton of products that integrate tech and innovation because they can, but not at all because they should. Lioness will also soon launch a new algorithm feature that makes the raw data more understandable to users.
The tech was easy to figure out. Despite initially leading the way in tech advancements , Silicon Valley gatekeepers have been trying to distance themselves from the taboo sex industry. Eventually, CES reversed its decision, reinstated their award, and announced a change to its policy banning sex tech from the show floor — at least on a trial basis for the upcoming conference in January So if we want the kind of quality tech needed to build great products, we need to keep breaking down doors, coming to tech conferences, and saying, you know, we belong here.
In spite of all the numerous difficulties facing the sex tech and its makers — and despite feeling almost triggered at the sight of most high-tech toys these days — I still wholeheartedly believe in their bright future. To be clear and I hope the individual product reviews below show even the companies perpetuating some of the worst problems still produce laudable products with groundbreaking innovations. What the Lora DiCarlo team is most excited about recently is a whole new category of advancement in sex tech called material science.
It allows the properties of the material used in toys to change, expand, and contract in ways that mimic human touch. Toys that truly act, feel, and emulate human contact have been the pipe dream of sex tech for decades actually, some of the worst companies pretend to have figured it out.
By testing dozens of high-tech toys, I set out to discover how they might help us have better sex in the digital age. The many promises of sex tech — whether they deliver on them or not yet — are irresistible in that regard. Often, technology is used as a scapegoat for the problems we face in modern intimacy and sex. And while the internet and smartphones have irrevocably changed human sexuality, through porn or sexting or dating apps, evidence on whether or not its effects are negative remains to be seen.
The people making sex tech right now will in many ways determine whether the needle goes one way or the other. In this crucial moment, we have the opportunity to support those who have a true vision for how tech can become a force for good in our love lives.
We're trying to create tech for a better world that lets people understand their own bodies better. Unfortunately, cock rings notoriously suck at stimulating clitorises, take several inches off the wearer, refuse to stay in place once juices start flowing, and get in the way usual methods for climaxing.
However couples with difficulty communicating sexually, it might be worth it. The Lioness tackles the astounding gap in data on male versus female sexual pleasure by making a device that lets you gather it yourself.
The biggest surprise hit, the Elvie blew my expectations of Kegel exercisers out of the water, with one of the best-designed apps in sex tech that actually encourages the habitual use needed to make it effective.
This radical approach to a hands-free partnered toy needs more iteration, but is a huge leap in the right direction. Wooooo boy. The Womanizer changed the game for clitoral stimulators by popularizing pressurized suction instead of vibration.
Despite being heralded as one of the best, most innovative toys by many, the Ora is nothing more than a beautiful-looking moron. A Swiss Army Knife of sex toys, this bendable, inclusive, versatile powerhouse justifies its price by letting you experiment in countless ways check out the Playbook on their site. One con is its beautifully designed but overwhelming app, with a paralyzing amount of customization options. Like all Bluetooth-enabled toys, it drops connection often, so preset your favorite patterns onto the vibe.
Mystery Vibe's new Tenuto wearable is like a much-needed evolution of the cock ring, more reliably stimulating clitorises and also the cock itself. One of the top-rated couples wearables, the Sync innovates with a U-shaped design that actually delivers on dual clitoral and g-spot stimulation during penetration — unlike many others of its ilk.
Some reviews fault it for not staying in place, but it fit my configurations perfectly and was one of the only toys to truly get me woke to the joys of this g-spot thing I kept hearing everyone rave about.
While the toys themselves are by far the best of the long-distance options, they come with the nightmare of using the Feel Connect app. If you can get them to sync up with your own personal IT team, the responsiveness to each other still lags. He wanted to know everything about me, told me he thought I was pretty, and eventually asked for my number. When we met up for a date, I felt for the first time in years like my old sexual self, turning on the charm and sarcasm, and at some point letting it slip that I thought he should come back to my apartment.
A couple of bottles of wine later, I announced that I would be sleeping in my bed and he in the adjacent guest bedroom, still feeling skittish about the idea of having sex. He grabbed me by the waist kissed me deeply—the first time anyone had done so in years. At first I tensed, startled by the touch. But my reservations melted as his hands wandered over my body.
Underneath all of the weirdness and terror, I also felt something powerful: desire. Two weeks later we met again and had sex for the first time. At first it was scary, but he was a passionate and intense partner. That began a three-month-long affair of intimate sex, and countless nights talking until the sun came up. We eventually parted ways as friends, but for those few months, he was exactly what I needed. Sexually, I felt alive again. And that made me feel like myself again.
My family and friends noticed an instant change. Truthfully, the answer was that I was finally getting laid. I felt beautiful. Other lingering questions from my celibacy still hung over me like a cloud about to burst into a rainstorm. Was I attracted to women?